Loving Them as they Fly Away

Sometimes it is hard for me to be happy for people.

I’m getting better, but when my friends are growing and expanding their lives in new and different ways, it’s hard for me to see that them growing doesn’t necessarily mean hey are growing away from me.

So my lesson of late is to be there for my close friends as they buy exciting new houses (if any of you need me, I will be living in my friend Ketta’s kitchen because it’s AMAZEBALLS) and prepare to bring another life into the world, or move clear across the country to pursue exciting opportunities.

It doesn’t mean I love them any less because they are doing things I am financially/physically/geographically incapable of doing.

It also doesn’t mean they love me any less.

So I will keep loving them in my own bizarre way (which involves funny emails, occasional random phone calls and forgetting to text back as well as showing up on their doorstep with food when they’re sick) and accept their love in return.

Because I am worthy of awesome friends, and am truly happy for their growth.


CSA love

So we have been picking up our CSA box at the Bellingham Farmers Market for two weeks now, and the novelty just doesn’t wear off.

This week is still looking a little on the green side, but I’m totally geeked about doing something with all of this green.


Kind of Lost.

One of my twitter friends (who is also an offline friend now) told me last night that I haven’t been very funny on Twitter lately.

I hadn’t realized how not-funny I have been until I read some of my latest tweets.

Or this gem:

So yeeeeeeaaaah, personal issues happening off-blog and me actually WORKING are causing me to be unfunny. And I have nothing that I CAN put on the blog right now, because I’m running off to write a paper on how imaginative play helps small kids develop big brains and then finishing a project for a client.

So in lieu of me being funny or having to post, here are some of my favorite things off of Amazon:

Adele. Adele, Adele, Adele. I cannot say enough nice things about this girl. She’s normal, except for her voice, which I find extraordinary. I adore her first CD (18) and this CD is insanely amazing as well. Good mellow yet ass-kicking music.
Hip Girl’s Guide to Homemaking. This would be the greatest gift of all for a bride or a girl moving out of her parents’ for the first time. It’s got some great tips even for me, who’s lived on her own (MOSTLY) for almost 10 years.

Back to the Future. These are my go-to movies when I’m feeling blue. I know all of the words and possibly even some of the hand gestures, I’ve seen them that many times. Yet somehow (for me at least) they never get old. Related: I love DeLoreans.
I have never read this book. But with the issues we’re having with switching Chuck to a Big Girl Bed, I’ve heard this book would help me. (Note: This is not a kids’ book. It is for adults.)

That’s all I’ve got, my darlings. Maybe later today after paper-writing and project-finishing and laundry-folding, I can get something better up 🙂

Thanks for sticking around.

Disclaimer: These are Amazon Affiliate links. If you click on them and buy something, I get a cut. I chose these particular products because I love them, not because I was paid.

I got nothin.

I have been doing a lot of nothing blog-worthy lately. So I haven’t blogged.

But I feel the need to update you guys so I stop getting the “WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU?” and “HAVE YOU DIED???” emails/tweets/texts, so here is a list of what I have done in the last week:

  1. Sang songs with Chuck.
  2. Cleaned the kitchen 19 bajillion times.
  3. Canned some rhubarb BBQ sauce.
  4. Made cheese, bread and yogurt.
  5. Played scrabble with Chef.
  6. Got a new phone. (2 weeks ad I can get an iPhone!)
  7. Took some really bad pictures and decided I desperately need an iPhone (see #6)
  8. Set up a Food Swap for my area.
  9. Organized a meal swap for my moms group.
  10. Spent a lot of time on Lamebook, Pinterest and looking at toddler beds on Craigslist.
I’m sure there’s other fascinating and scintillating things I have done in the past week, but I won’t share them so you can just imagine what glittery goodness I’ve been up to 🙂
Hope you are all having a great week…..stay tuned for my 30 day photo challenge and my journal thingy! (You’re welcome for being super specific about that, btw.)

A Cupcake Manifesto

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According to Wikipedia:

a manifesto is a public declaration of principles and intentions, often political in nature. Manifestos relating to religious belief are generally referred to as creeds. Manifestos may also be life stance-related.

I have been kind of floundering around trying to figure out what to do lately. I have big ideas and no clue how to go forward with them.

So I am creating a manifesto for this blog. That way, I will know what to write about when I get stuck.



  • I will continue to complain about my in-laws, brag about my kids and my fiance and generally be awesome whenever I feel like it.
  • At least once a month but no more than once per week, I will host a review/giveaway.
  • I’ll keep talking about roller derby. In fact, I’ll talk about it more often. (Hopefully will have some exciting derby-related news for you within the next few months…)
  • Once a month, I’ll make something or cook something from the new issue of Martha Stewart Living. Just to prove it can actually be done.
  • I will post at least three times a week.
  • I will make something crafty once a month (other than the Martha piece) and show you how to do it.
  • I will post at least 3 recipes a month.
  • Once a month, I will post about one of the kickass places near where I live. There are a lot of them.
  • I will continue to post about my weight loss journey, since I have 50 pounds to go!
And some basic guidelines for me (and for you to expect!):
  • I will take more/better photos for you guys.
  • I will be making more stuff and taking more pictures.
  • I will continue to be random and awesome and me.
  • I will not be turning this into a foodie blog, but I will talk about food more often.
  • 100% more dancing.

I’m hoping eventually I will get a new camera, but for now, I will have to figure out how to make my point-and-shoot work better.

So now that I’ve talked all about myself, I will say this: HAPPY MONDAY! 😀

Coloring outside the lines

Today sucked. Not gonna lie.

Chef was off at work cooking brunch for all of the other moms out there, and I was home with Chuck, sick as a dog.

Had to cancel plans with my family & scrap my hope to see Ina May Gaskin speak.

I was disappointed, at the very least.

But part of life is being sad and let down and angry and all of that….and part of who we are is how we deal with the crap parts.

You can’t shove them under the rug. You can’t wallow in them forever. You can’t dwell on it until you’re a wreck.

However, how you deal with heartache and puffy eyes and illness is up to you.

But don’t EVER let someone else tell you how to feel. Own your emotions and feel them.

Be sad if that’s what you feel. Have your big ugly sobbing cry while you talk to your friend on the phone about your stupid ex who dumped you on Valentine’s Day. Then get over it.

And to all my ladies out there in a relationship: please don’t lose your “self” while creating your “us”.

Putting on a happy face is one thing, but constantly suppressing your ideas and your joy and what makes you the big glittery YOU that you were born to be is something different. Don’t EVER dumb yourself down for ANYONE.

If they don’t like you coloring outside the lines, screw ’em.

Happy Mother’s Day to all my mommas out there….especially the ones living a big bright life as a great example for their babies.


Party All The Time

Ultimate Blog Party 2011

Does anyone remember that Eddie Murphy pretended to sing back in the 80’s? Party All The Time? No, just me?

This is my first year “partying” with the Ultimate Blog Party (a virtual party of bloggers thrown by the ladies over at 5 Minutes for Mom), so you’ll have to excuse me if I do this wrong. I tend to toot my own horn.

What is Bruises on the Frosting all about?

It’s about a terribly large list of things. I’m a bit of a dilettante and write a little bit about a lot of things.

Mostly, I write about my life. I’m a mom to two terrific kiddos (Short Stack is 11 and Chuck is 17 mos), so that occupies the majority of my time. I’m engaged to a guy we call Chef…because he is a chef.

Yes, I’m pretty lucky. (He also runs a very successful website for tips and tricks on the Call of Duty video game, so if you or your SO are into that, you should check it out!)


Mia Cupcake's the name, pointing and looking serious is my game. Photo courtesy of Axle Adams.


I am a non-skating official for roller derby. Short explanation: this means sometimes I get to yell and blow a whistle while girls skate in a circle and hit each other, and sometimes I wear a pink shirt and write stuff down. One of these days, I will explain the long way what I do.

I bake. A lot. A LOT. I don’t eat much of it (Mia Cupcake came from “mea culpa, btw), but I have a lot of very happy friends. And the girls at the coffee stand near my house love me.

Sometimes I do giveaways….and sometimes I do reviews. Mostly I just talk about myself.

I am in the process of a transformation to a healthier me. I’m exercising more, and I’m eating better and I quit smoking and soda and fast food. I’m doing a lot of it with the help of Mamavation….which brings me to my SUPER AWESOME giveaway!

I am in the finals to be a Mamavation Mom, and to be able to inspire other moms out there to make healthier changes for them and for their family. I need your help though.

Go here and vote for me (@miacupcake) to be the next Mamavation Mom BEFORE noon on Monday, April 4th, and then head here and enter my giveaway! Every vote counts….!

And because you made it this far….sometimes I post a video on the bottom that may or may not have something to do with the post. I’m random like that.

In this case, it’s Party All The Time. As proof that Eddie Murphy did attempt singing, around the same time that his career was at its height, with Beverly Hills Cop 1-3.

You’re welcome for that flashback 🙂

Sorry Charlie…..

This is me on Saturday. Full of winning.

Dear Charlie Sheen,

I hear you’ve been running around and talking about how you love tiger blood and warlock porn stars live in your house and something about DNA and drugs called Charlie Sheen and banging 7 gram rocks and all sorts of crazy….to be perfectly honest, I haven’t been listening. (I had to Google most of that.)

Mostly because I’ve been too busy winning.

That's me, almost 3 weeks ago, in the yellow helmet.

I know you think you understand winning. But I don’t think you do.

Winning is turning someone’s life around. It’s seeing that you have a problem and taking steps to fix that problem. It’s stepping on the scale before a surgery to remove cancer on Feb 1st, and seeing a number (262.4) that you don’t EVER want to see again.

And then making CHANGES.

Changing your way of life. Quitting the couch. Giving up greasy fast food.

As of this morning. Down 15 pounds. Eat that, Warlock DNA.

Tossing out the last half pack of cigarettes after smoking for YEARS. Making sure your house is a junk free zone so you’re not tempted to binge because it’s EASY.

Winning is moving your quite large butt so you can be there for your kids. It’s taking the hard road because you still can. It’s making sacrifices to ensure that you will be there for your baby’s graduation from high school and get to harass her while she plans her wedding.

It’s making decisions (like smoothies over Jack in the Box, or planks vs sitting on the couch while watching Biggest Loser) that affect not only your life, but the lives of those around you. It’s FINALLY being able to get up in the morning and not be exhausted, or chase after your toddler and not be winded.

Winning is normal people doing extraordinary things.

Dude, you couldn’t handle my kind of winning. Your face would melt off.



PS dude, if you haven’t seen this video yet, you should totally watch it. Then try rehab.


Nerds Untie!

I am humming along, editing my video for my Mamavation Moms application, and my video camera software asks me if I want to make a Magic Movie!

Why yes, video camera, I LOVE MAGIC! Please! Make a magic movie!

This is the ridiculousness that it came up with. Enjoy.

*editor’s note: turn your freaking speakers down because for some reason, the roller derby part is REALLY REALLY LOUD.

Not working for the man…but still working for a bitch.

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So 2 years ago next week will be my “anniversary” of my last day working for someone else.

I was fired unceremoniously on some very unsubstantiated claims that I had physically assaulted a coworker (I don’t assault people. I just berate them verbally) and seeing as how I was 2 months pregnant and vomiting copiously every 15 minutes, I didn’t put up much of a fight. I just took my rather generous severance check, and went home to pack up my things and move in with Chef.

ANYWAY. Point being, fast forward almost 2 years to this moment, where I just realized I’m working three jobs. I’m my own boss in all of them, but damn. I’m a slave driver and kind of a bitch. 🙂

(I actually have 4 jobs if you count being Chuck and Short Stack’s mom…and if you do count that, please inform someone I need health insurance and to collect some back pay.)

I am a licensed massage therapist in the state of Washington, and I do house calls so I don’t have to pay for office space. I don’t have a big enough client base to warrant obtaining office space, and I don’t want to kill my body doing massage. I have 2-3 clients a week, which pays my cell phone bill and puts Chuck in cute shoes.

I am also the baker/owner for Mia Cupcake’s, (watch this space for a SUPER EXCITING deal coming tomorrow, BTW!) but we haven’t been trying to gather clients as much, due to my pending medical procedure. (I’d hate to leave Chef in the kitchen with a whole mess of orders while I yell at him from the bedroom or the couch 🙂

And now I sell Pampered Chef products. I had to think long and hard about this one because I had failed miserably at several other direct sales and I didn’t feel like wasting money on something stupid. But I love it. It’s exciting for me and having Chef for a tester/helper doesn’t hurt either 🙂

So in conclusion, I need to lighten up on myself and possibly work a little harder so my boss doesn’t get so mad. 🙂

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